Desir Metallique Metallic Mesh Gold Collar

Desir Metallique Metallic Mesh Gold Collar

This isn't a leather collar with a D-ring. The Desir Metallique is a golden mesh collar that straddles the line between jewelry and BDSM — draped metal that catches light, feels weightless, and signals submission without looking like fetish gear. It's designed for people who want the symbolism of a collar but don't want to wear chunky leather to dinner.

The mesh drapes around the neck like chainmail, soft enough to move with you but structured enough to feel present. It's a collar you can wear under clothing or over it, in the bedroom or at a party, depending on how bold you feel. The gold finish gives it warmth — it looks expensive, not costume.

Bijoux Indiscrets designed this as part of their Desir Metallique collection, which treats BDSM accessories as body jewelry. The result is a collar that works in contexts where traditional gear doesn't.

Intensity & Experience Level

Mild. This is a symbolic collar, not a restrictive one. It doesn't lock, doesn't attach to leashes, and doesn't limit movement. The intensity comes from what it represents, not what it does physically.

If you're exploring D/s dynamics but aren't ready for heavy leather gear, this is an elegant starting point. If you're experienced but want something wearable in public, this is subtle enough to pass as fashion jewelry while still carrying meaning between you and your partner.

Material & Quality

The collar is made from gold-finished metal mesh — individual links woven into a flexible drape. It feels smooth against skin, cool at first contact, then warming to body temperature. The mesh has give but doesn't stretch out of shape.

The finish is durable enough for regular wear but delicate enough to avoid looking industrial. It's jewelry-grade metalwork, not hardware-store chain. The mesh won't snag on hair or clothing if you're careful putting it on.

Fit & Adjustment

The collar is designed to sit snug around the base of the neck, following your natural contours. It's not adjustable in the traditional sense — the mesh drapes and conforms rather than buckles. You position it by how you arrange the clasp at the back.

Because there's no rigid structure, it suits most neck sizes. If you have a very slender neck, it may sit lower than intended. If you have a broader neck, check that the clasp closes comfortably without pulling.

There's no quick-release mechanism. This is jewelry, not restraint gear. The clasp is standard — easy to open if you need to, but not designed for panic removal.

How to Use It

The collar is symbolic. You wear it to signal a dynamic, to mark a role, or simply because you like how it looks. Some people wear it as a day collar — subtle enough for work or public spaces. Others save it for scenes or evenings out.

If you're incorporating it into play, it works best paired with other sensory elements — blindfolds, wax, feathers — rather than physical restraint. It's a psychological anchor, not a practical one.

To put it on: gather your hair away from your neck, position the mesh at the front, and fasten the clasp at the back. The mesh should sit flat, not twisted. If it feels too loose, layer it — the mesh can overlap slightly for a more dramatic look.

Safe-words aren't necessary for the collar itself, but they're always a good practice if you're using it within a broader scene.

Cleaning & Storage

Wipe the mesh gently with a soft, slightly damp cloth after wear to remove oils from skin. Don't submerge it in water or use harsh cleaners — the finish can tarnish. If the gold dulls over time, a jewelry polishing cloth will restore the shine.

Store it flat or loosely coiled in a soft pouch to prevent the mesh from tangling or catching on other items. Don't fold it sharply or hang it by one end — the weight can distort the shape over time.

Returned by Desir Metallique Metallic Mesh Gold Collar and other lingerie

For reasons of hygiene, we do not refund underwear if the packaging is broken. By underwear is meant all clothing items that are worn on the lower body, i.e. panties, pantyhose, bodystockings and the like. Tops such as negligees, bras and dresses must be tried on and sent back if this happens in the same condition as received and in the same packaging in which they were delivered.